Yearend reflections

Fiercer, bolder, decisive; traits that until now, I still wish to be me.

This year has been a big roller coaster ride; emotionally, mentally, and physically. I had my worst asthma attack that took over a month before I overcome. And while I can barely manage to move around, a challenging twist occurred. I must choose between peace and financial assistance. I opted for peace.

Peace is a mental and an emotional state that no amount of money can compensate. While money is essential to live, peace is a necessity for existence. We should not just live, we have to exist.

Though my 2025 ended with a heavy twist, I had a good run during the year. I have been to some beautiful countries weaving memories and enrinching experiences. Travelling was a childhood dream. I remember during my fifth-grade class, our teacher asked us what our dreams are. I eagerly replied “I want to be a flight steward so I can travel to many countries for free.”

Ironically, my dream has become my respite. I have been travelling to go away from the gruelling challenge of facing an ugly phase of my life. My life has always been on a balance, with a wrong shift, it will fall and shatter.

So much for the drams, now I have woken up. I should continue to exist and face the challenges head on. I must level up my travel, not as a respite but an adventure. I must work hard to attain my wish too.

Change is always tough but drowning in misery is tougher.

Capping this (emotional) narrative with warm wishes to everyone. Hope you all have a joyful yearend celebration.

A blessed New Year to all!

Month-end thought

Capping the month of March with this thought: Why expect an excellent result when you know one’s limitations.
I had a breathing test for an hour today. I am connected to a machine, stuffed with a mouthpiece, and my nose clipped while I sat inside a closed cubicle.
I have to breathe through my mouth only; breath in, breath out, and blow. We did these several times depending on the speed and the length. Aside from feeling tired, I was perspiring because my claustrophobia seemed to have catch up on me.
The attendant gave me then three puffs of Ventolin. She asked me to rest for 10 minutes. We redo some of the procedures.
After going through the same routines, the attendant finally told me, you could have done better. My mind shouted: WHAT?
Trembling and feeling dizzy, I told the attendant, “Thank you and sorry. That was the most I can do.” I left and looked for a corner where I can regain my strength and compose myself.

A short story: it was over before it started

“We got to start somewhere,” he said. They were inside his hotel room; it was their first meeting since their friendship started nearly three years ago. Theirs was an unusual friendship. They met on the net and after some exchanges of communications, they became friends. They can talk about anything, from personal to universal and even sensual (as he called it).

She knows him as the person who values his independence and who enjoys his single-blessedness. He inspires her with his very positive outlook in life. He is aware of her current situation, she could cry to him whenever she is down and lonely.

Tall, blue-eyed and with neatly shaven silver gray hair, she met him at the central train station one weekend when he visited her. She found no difficulty in recognizing him as he walked towards her.  He looks exactly the same as his projection on the computer screen though he is bigger in real life. He too confided that he immediately recognized her thinking there was no other woman around to meet him.

They proceeded to his hotel room which was just a stone throw away from the station. They stayed there until the wee hours in the morning. At first, he was seated on a chair at the right foot side of the bed while she snuggled comfortably on a couch on the left side of the head board. They talked about the calamity that recently hit Japan, the uprising in the Middle East and the African countries and their country’s involvement in Afghanistan.

The exchange of their ideas became too heavy, she felt they have to change topic. She suggested that they draw a plan how he is going to enjoy his short visit. Though it was not his first time to the city, he said that he has not explored the place and had been only there on business trips.

Meanwhile, she felt a little discomfort when he rose from his chair, decided to occupy the right side of the twin-sized bed saying “I am tired.” She could not understand whether the discomfort came as he took off his shoes which emitted some smell or because he will lie in bed. She was engulfed with mixed feelings she asked herself; shall I leave now, shall I remain on my seat or shall I join him in bed?

She decided to sit still but it did not take too long, she joined him in bed.  Whether for comfort or anything, she did not care to understand. The bed has enough room for two; she laid the hardbound coffee table book and continued reading.  She was impressed by his rich knowledge on their culture and history and the current events. He provided more information on almost every place, people and event she read to him. He seems to have ideas on almost about anything. He even knows how to make clear, crystal ice cubes.

Their nearness allowed him to hold her hand which looked like a child’s hand on his big palm. “You are feeling cold” he blurted as he touched her cold hand. He gently whisks her hand, rises up and adjusted the control of the room temperature. “It will be warmer, you’ll feel comfortable now,” he said as he returned to bed.

She remained seated while reading until he gently pulled her towards him. They soon lie side by side and their conversation shifted to a more personal topic. She asked why he decided to see her. Couldn’t think of any good reason perhaps, to explain his sudden interest to meet her, he answered “because of curiosity.” He added that it was probably the same reason why she was there. They remained in their intimate position, his arms wrapped around her with their fingers crossed together. And as silence engulfed them, she decided to leave.

She jumped off the bed, pulled her creased woollen long-sleeve blouse and combed her hair. He then stood behind her and helped her with her coat. They were in front of a full-length mirror which reflected their contrasting personalities, tall and petite, fair and brown.  He said during their meeting the following day that he could have undressed her on that moment to stop her from leaving but he did not “out of respect” knowing she’s going home.

He sent her off to the train station. While waiting for her ride, she was trying to think of the reason why she indeed consented to meet him. Was it really plain curiosity? Curious on why he remains single despite his age? Has their friendship weighed on her? Should there be a special reason why she went to meet him, stayed with him and promised to meet him again the next day?

Despite some apprehensions, she was, however, happy meeting him. To her it was a significant meeting. It rekindled lost feelings that were not necessarily related to him. She was like a lost child, she found comfort inside his arms as she snuggled her head in his chest. It was a short, swift moment of happiness that allowed her to be herself again…sweet, happy, conversational and carefree.

Their closeness did not stop when he went back to his place….they talk whenever it was possible, exchange short sweet messages and dream together of meeting again, sometime, anywhere.

But things have become different. ….the sweet notes became scarce, there were less talk and there were days of no talk and no notes at all… She feels that just as she is beginning to become closer to him, he is starting to go farther.

“We got to start somewhere…” whatever he means when he said it will remain a puzzle. Will there be a next meeting? Time can only tell….She strongly feels that whatever there is or will be between them was over even before it formally started…as to why, she can never say….